Hey,
This is a touchy topic – This will be about Abortion – Now – if you are PRO CHOICE and you want to debate this is not the place because I will not respond to it this is my belief, my feelings, my point of view. If you are easily offended if you had one or thinking about getting one. If this topic will upset you, or anything, for those reasons I suggest you to leave this entry. This entry is not meant to be insulting, or directly towards someone or anything. I will not use anyone’s experience unless its online, or names… so anyone I had in my life/currently in my life I will let that remain a secret. (please do not assume who you think it is that’s pretty pointless)
There will be three parts: INTERVIEW, EDUCATION (safe sex too), RELGION VIEWS (you can skip if you want) I am writing this because I don’t think a lot of people are educated when it comes to abortion/sex, I know most of us are but this topic has been bugging me to write. I will explain the whole thing on how/how much and damages (I will do my research, it will be facts not opinion when it comes to education)
PART ONE:
INTERVIEW (Opinion/feelings towards it)
As you know – I am Roman Catholic and I am PROUD of it.
I am PRO LIFE – and there will be nothing to be said or do to change my mind. Before I go on with the quotes from the Bible, and other research here are common questions (warning most may seem religious coming from me):
- Are you okay with Abortion?
No I am not, I will never be okay with it. It is murder, it is never the baby’s fault, its God’s gift and you want to get rid of it?
- What if it is going to be a “Different” Baby – that it will have special needs and etc?
For starters, those assumptions are not 100 percent true, it’s a guess… and again when I say it is not the baby’s fault. If you are going to be loving parents, how do you expect to LOVE the child if you cant accept what the child needs, less or more than others? They say you will never be ready to have kids till you have them, once the child develop certain issues that you don’t expect, learn about it, try to give the child the best life you can provide.
- What if it’s a rape child?
I know for a fact there has been a couple of occasions that people have KEPT the baby and loved the child, even for that one bad memory of their lives. Again – Why is it the baby’s fault? God wouldn’t put too much on you if he knew you couldn’t handle it. if you really didn’t want to keep the child, give it up for adoption, it is only 9 months. It is still murder. If it happens to me, I will have to consider mine and my husband’s feelings, and desire, we will 1. Keep the child I will NOT go through the abortion PERIOD. 2. Adoption.
- What if it affect you and the mother – include death?
Now, that is something we can think about, because sometimes it is true, but if the mother has heart problems or something then that’s something the family should decide. It will be the most difficult point of your life. but it would have to be “IT WILL HAPPEN” and not “I think it will hurt you both” but if you know carrying a child ahead of time, then don’t try to have a baby. Practice safe sex, birth controls, tube tied anything to help prevent. But I am not sure how much of it is an excuse but if abortion was okay – this would be the ONLY acceptable reason, I want to get my body tested and make sure that my body can handle it – I will be prepared for the bad as well, my body from what I understand, I will experience miscarriages. We all have our secrets, I am not ready to share mine for this. (PLEASE DO NOT ASK) and I have negative blood type and he has positive… that’s also a risk. We want at least one – esp to make my mom happy to be a grandma, just give her one grandbaby at least, and I know we will be happy too to have one at least. And we are considering an adoption of a older child like 4ish to 7ish. I would love to have a girl. I will happy with a boy too! Mothers can give up their life for the child. This one will baffle a lot of people.
- Some people feel this is a “Birth Control” method, do you believe this? How do you feel about it?
That is a load of CRAP. Birth control methods are: Pills, Rod (those things that goes in the arm if I got the name right), Shots, IUD, Condoms (Both girls and guys – I guess this is not a BC method more like safe sex) AND safe sex. Catholics do not believe in BC, however, a lot of us break the rules, I am one of them. I do get scold on it on a regular basic, but hey, that is the consequence for me to take them when I know its wrong, but it does help regulate my period/control my mood swings.
- What if the mother is a teenager in highschool? She is too young don’t you think?
STILL NOT OKAY, a simple solution… ADOPTION… I don’t think people realize (the ones who are pro choice/experienced it/going to go through with it) there are MANY people who WANTS babies, it is sad that they want babies and not older ones. That’s why I want to adopt a older child, I will be taking on a challenge and prepare for baggage. I will not keep secrets with the child, if they have questions concerns or comments about the whole adoption fine.
- What if they just don’t like/want children?
So murder is okay? No, again with the adoption.
- Some people don’t feel comfortable with adoptions because they don’t know what kind of homes they are going into – what do you have to say about that?
I completely understand – I would be nervous too, this might be a poor example to compare, when my husband and I were moving into a place that we couldn’t bring our pets, which was a cat, 2 geiuna pigs – foster was not an option for us because it would have been over a year or so, we posted an ad, gotten emails, and interviewed (email and phone and met) people to go to homes, now how does this relate to the question? Why not do your research find a agency you can trust or consider, and allow them to help, have a lawyer involved, and talk it over, visit, interview, see the environment, background check and etc.
PART TWO
EDUCATION ON ABORTION/SAFE SEX ADVICE AND USES:
(some or most of the facts will be copied and paste but I will provide the sources at the end so I will not take credit for it)
Illegal use of Abortion/time history:
Abortion has not always been so safe. Between the 1880s and 1973, abortion was illegal in all or most U.S. states, and many women died or had serious medical problems as a result. Women often made desperate and dangerous attempts to induce their own abortions or resorted to untrained practitioners who performed abortions with primitive instruments or in unsanitary conditions. Women streamed into emergency rooms with serious complications - perforations of the uterus, retained placentas, severe bleeding, cervical wounds, rampant infections, poisoning, shock, and gangrene.
Around the world, in countries where abortion is illegal, it remains a leading cause of maternal death. An estimated 68,000 women worldwide die each year from unsafe abortions.
Many of the doctors who provide abortions in the United States today are committed to providing this service under medically safe conditions because they witnessed and still remember the tragic cases of women who appeared in hospitals after botched, illegal abortions.
Post Abortion Complications:
If a woman has any of the following symptoms after having either a surgical or medical abortion, she should immediately contact the facility that provided the abortion for follow-up care:
severe or persistent pain;
chills or fever with an oral temperature of 100.4° or more;
bleeding that is twice the flow of her normal menstrual period or that soaks through more than one sanitary pad per hour for two hours in a row;
malodorous discharge or drainage from her vagina; or
continuing symptoms of pregnancy.
In addition, if a woman who is having a medical abortion notices the onset of severe abdominal pain, malaise or "feeling sick," even in the absence of fever, more than 24 hours after the administration of the second medication, she must immediately contact the facility that provided the abortion.
Health care providers and clinics that offer abortion services should provide a 24-hour number to call in the event of complications or reactions that the patient is concerned about.
Unintended Pregnancy
Each year, almost half of all pregnancies among American women are unintended.1 About half of these unplanned pregnancies, 1.3 million each year, are ended by abortion.
There are many myths and misconceptions about who gets abortions, and why. The fact is that the women who have abortions come from all racial, ethnic, socioeconomic, and religious backgrounds. If current rates continue, it is estimated that 35% of all women of reproductive age in America today will have had an abortion by the time they reach the age of 45.
Age of having Abortion:
Women between the ages of 15 and 19 account for about 19% of all abortions; women 20 to 24 account for another 33%; and about 25% of abortions are obtained by women who are 30 or older. Calculating abortion rates, older teenagers and young adults have the highest abortion rates, while women younger than 15 and older than 35 have the lowest
Marital Status:
Most women getting abortions (83%) are unmarried; 67% have never married, and 16% are separated, divorced, or widowed. Married women are significantly less likely than unmarried women to resolve unintended pregnancies through abortion.
Religion:
Women who obtain abortions represent every religious affiliation. 13% of abortion patients describe themselves as born-again or Evangelical Christians; while 22% of U.S. women are Catholic, 27% of abortion patients say they are Catholics.
(SIDE NOTE: after reading this related to Religion – I was pretty shocked how high the rate of the abortion)
MYTH: Women are using abortion as a method of birth control.
In fact, half of all women getting abortions report that contraception was used during the month they became pregnant. Some of these couples had used the method improperly; some had forgotten or neglected to use it on the particular occasion they conceived; and some had used a contraceptive that failed. No contraceptive method prevents pregnancy 100% of the time.
If abortion were used as a primary method of birth control, a typical woman would have at least two or three pregnancies per year - 30 or more during her lifetime. In fact, most women who have abortions have had no previous abortions (52%) or only one previous abortion (26%). Considering that most women are fertile for over 30 years, and that birth control is not perfect, the likelihood of having one or two unintended pregnancies is very high.
MYTH: Women have abortions for selfish or frivolous reasons.
The decision to have an abortion is rarely simple. Most women base their decision on several factors, the most common being lack of money and/or unreadiness to start or expand their families due to existing responsibilities. Many feel that the most responsible course of action is to wait until their situation is more suited to childrearing; 66% plan to have children when they are older, financially able to provide necessities for them, and/or in a supportive relationship with a partner so their children will have two parents. Others wanted to get pregnant but developed serious medical problems, learned that the fetus had severe abnormalities, or experienced some other personal crisis. About 13,000 women each year have abortions because they have become pregnant as a result of rape or incest.
MYTH: Women are often forced into having abortions they do not really want.
Some women say that pressure from a husband, partner, or parent was one of several reasons they chose abortion, but only about 1% give that reason as the "most important" one in making their decision. Conversely, some women who do not want to continue their pregnancies are pressured to do so by family members, friends, or fear of social stigma. Pre-abortion options counseling is designed to determine whether a woman is fully comfortable with her abortion decision, and if she is not, she is encouraged to wait until she has had a chance to consider her options more fully.
MYTH: Many women come to regret their abortions later.
Research indicates that relief is the most common emotional response following abortion, and that psychological distress appears to be greatest before, rather than after, an abortion.
There are undoubtedly some women who, in hindsight, wish that they had made different choices, and the majority would prefer never to have become pregnant when the circumstances were not right for them. When a wanted pregnancy is ended (for medical reasons, for example) women may experience a sense of loss and grief. As with any major change or decision involving loss, a crisis later in life sometimes leads to a temporary resurfacing of sad feelings surrounding the abortion. Women at risk for poor post-abortion adjustment are those who do not get the support they need, or whose abortion decisions are actively opposed by people who are important to them
COST OF ABORTION – I looked online (copy and paste the source will be on the bottom of the education section) for Washington State.
The cost of an abortion depends on the stage of pregnancy and which clinic is providing services. First trimester procedures run about $500-1000. Second trimester procedures cost $600-10,000. Many insurance plans cover abortion. In Washington, abortion is covered by the state medical assistance. State Medicaid coverage varies from state to state.
RISKS OF AFTER ABORT:
Fever: A fever is a sign that you may be developing an infection. Take your temperature every morning for 7 days. If your temperature is above 100 f, call the clinic. You should also immediately take two of your antibiotics and two Tylenol.
Bleeding: Your bleeding may be very heavy to light brown spotting to none at all. If you bleed through more than two sanitary napkins in less than two hours, take 800 mg of Ibuprofen immediately and call the clinic. If you pass clots larger than a plum, call the clinic. Your bleeding may stop and restart for two to three weeks. This is not your period. Your first period will usually return in 4-8 weeks.
To Prevent Infection: Nothing should enter the vagina for two weeks; no sexual intercourse, no tampons (use sanitary napkins), no douching and no baths or swimming. Take all the antibiotic until it is gone. Call the clinic if you throw-up your antibiotic (it helps to have food on your stomach when you take it).
Sadness or Depression: You may feel unusually emotional after the abortion. This is normal and may be affected by the dropping progesterone levels in your body.
Contraception: It is possible to become pregnant immediately after the abortion, and therefore you need to use some form of contraception. If you plan to take birth control pills, start them the Sunday after your abortion. If you plan on using Depo-Provera, we can provide this at your follow-up appointment. If you prefer to use an IUD, we will first see you for your follow-up appointment, and then we will schedule you to return for your IUD insertion.
DAMAGES FROM THE ABORTION RISK:
Heavy bleeding: Bleeding after the abortion procedure is quite common. But if your cervix is torn or punctured then it can lead to heavy, abnormal bleeding. This kind of severe bleeding after abortion is known as hemorrhaging. Only in some cases, this kind of abortion risk needs surgery.
Infections: Any fetal part left inside the womb (abnormal or incomplete abortion) can cause infections for your pelvic parts. These infections can also be caused due to the surgical instruments which are inserted into the uterus during the surgery. The pelvic infection can be identified with persistent fever.
Incomplete abortion: Some times the abortion can be incomplete with some unwanted fetal parts left inside the uterus. This can lead to severe complications after the abortion.
Perforation of the uterus: The major risk in abortion is puncturing or perforation of the uterus. This can be due to improper use of surgical instruments during the surgery. This kind of risks in abortion can lead to hysterectomy that is removal of uterus.
Damage to internal organs: The surgical procedure involved in abortion has many complications. During the surgery, the surrounding organs near the uterus can be injured. This is also one of the major factors of abortion risks.
Scars on the uterus lining: Because of suction tubing, curettes and the use of other surgical instruments there is a chance for permanent scars on uterus lining.
Cervix injury: Cervix puncture is a considerable risk in abortion. Damage or injury to cervix can cause severe vaginal bleeding which in turn needs a surgical repair.
Anesthesia: There are several complications involved with the use of general anesthesia during the surgery. It can cause heart attack, convulsion in body functions and in some
rare cases it can lead to death.
Other significant abortion risks:
Breast cancer: This is considered as major risk in abortion. About 50% of women are affected by this type of cancer after abortion.
Premature delivery: When you go through one or more induced abortion surgeries, there is a significantly increased risk of premature delivery in future. This kind of abortion risk is mainly associated with several complications like cerebral palsy, prematurity in brain, eye problems and several bowel diseases.
Infertility: This is a very rare case in the risks of abortion, where a woman might not get pregnancy in future.
Pelvic inflammatory diseases: This can be a life threatening risk for you after abortion, which can lead to infertility and ectopic pregnancy. About 5% of women suffer with pelvic inflammatory diseases.
Psychological effects of abortion:
Many women suffer with emotional and psychological problems after experiencing abortion. Some of these problems are depression, acute feeling of grief and fear of disclosure, eating disorders, suicide tendencies, anxiety and also increased consumption of alcohol and drugs.
THEY OFFERED SPIRTUAL SUPPORT
(I checked the catholic one just because I was curious what their support was like)
http://smawc.iarbiz.com/q9QOtpROWB4=
This link has the list of links to go, if your curious.
BIRTH CONTROL METHOD:
(again copied and pasted – they had more descriptions than I could explain and some of them I didn’t know)
Birth Control Pills (BCPs):
BCPs are a combination of the hormones estrogen and progestin. They come in packs of 28 pills. One pill taken at approximately the same time every day has over a 99% effectiveness rate. BCPs work by preventing your body from ovulating. Some side effects include headaches, weight gain, and nausea. These are not recommended for smokers, due to increased risk of blood clots.
Depo Provera:
Depo is made up of the hormone progesterone. The shot is given every 3 months (4 times / year) so you don't have to deal with birth control on a day-to-day basis. However, it is extremely important to be on time for your next scheduled shot (every 12-14 weeks). Depo works by preventing ovulation and is 99% effective. Some side effects include weight gain and irregular menstruation.
Diaphragm:
A diaphragm is a small rubber concave disc that covers the cervix. The diaphragm is most effective when used in combination with spermicidal cream and/or condoms. Diaphragms work to block sperm from entering the cervix and the spermicide kills any sperm that get past the diaphragm. Diaphragms must be removed 8 hours after sex and spermicide cream reapplied after each act of intercourse. Diaphragms must be "fitted" by the doctor for each individual and refitted if a 10-20 pound weight gain or loss occurs.
Intrauterine Device (IUD):
An IUD is a small plastic device in the shape of the letter T either containing copper or the hormone Progesterone. Copper IUDs last ten years and Mirena IUDs (those with progesterone) last for five years. IUDs are 99% effective. Many women and couples who are not ready for a vasectomy or tubal ligation (permanent sterilization) are very satisfied with this form of birth control. Some side effects include cramping during the menstrual cycle, and spotting off and on during the first few months after insertion.
Emergency Contraception EC):
It is also called "Morning After Therapy" or the "Morning After Pill". EC was developed to help prevent pregnancy after having sex in situations such as a condom breaking, realizing you missed a birth control pill, your diaphragm or cervical cap slipped or you just didn't use birth control at all. It consists of two doses of hormones taken twelve hours apart. EC is most effective if taken within 72 hours of unprotected sex. If you are already pregnant, it will not stop the pregnancy. If it fails and you do become pregnant, it will not harm the fetus should you choose to continue the pregnancy. The slogan for EC is "It won't hurt, and it might help." It is 75-95% effective in preventing pregnancy, depending on which brand is taken and how quickly it can be taken (it is most effective in the first 24 hours after unprotected sex). The most common side effect is nausea and/or vomiting.
Ortho Evra (the "Patch"):
Ortho Evra is a hormonal patch that is worn on the body to prevent pregnancy. It is changed once a week for three weeks and then left off for the fourth week to allow menstruation. It continuously delivers hormones through the skin and into the bloodstream. This contraceptive patch contains hormones similiar to those found in birth controls pills and can have similar side effects.
Nuvaring:
The Nuvaring is a small, flexible ring that rests in the vagina, like a tampon, delivering a steady, low dose of hormones around the clock to help prevent pregnancy. The ring is changed once a month and you get your period monthly. It is easy to insert and remove. Most women and partners do not feel it. The Nuvaring contains hormones similar to BC pills and can have similar side effects.
Implanon:
A single plastic rod containing progestin placed under the skin in the upper arm. The progestin is released slowly and will last up to three years. Common side effects are spotting and over time periods may get lighter or stop.
Vasectomy or Tubal Ligation:
A vasectomy is a 12-minute permanent sterilization procedure, performed on a man, with local anesthesia, in the doctor's office. The man will be sore for 1-2 days. Vasectomy does not alter the man's sexual drive, the ability or duration of erections, or having ejaculate (only sperm is missing afterwards). It is relatively inexpensive. Many couples state that the spontaneity it affords is one of the most positive side effects.
Tubal Ligations (or "getting ones tubes tied") are a permanent procedure performed on a woman in a surgical operating room. It requires much more anesthesia and recovery than a vasectomy, but is usually done as an "outpatient procedure" so the patient does not have to spend the night in the hospital. It does not affect a woman's sexual drive, she will still menstruate regularly, and go through menopause (the ovaries are not involved in the procedure). Sperm is prevented from reaching the egg via the interrupted fallopian tube. After the procedure and healing are complete, spontaneity with sex can be a positive side effect.
SAFE SEX:
We all know the rules of safe sex/ways but I said I would post them up anyways.
- abstinence – not a bad idea, some people thinks it is “stupid” to wait till they find the one even if they are older. There is nothing to be embarrassed about, there are many people who are over the age of 25 and still virgins.
- Condoms – Even if you are not in a serious relationship, and you don’t want to get pregnant, I recommend to carry one or two with (including the women) you just never know.
- Birth control – which I just posted up
- Other protection to prevent STDS as well:
- Dental dam – for oral sex you can catch STD in the mouth even if you do not have intercourse.
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- it is important to wash your hands after having your hands/fingers on/in their genital areas – you can get STD in your eyes, mouth, sores.
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- Cold sores are NOT an STD, however, if you have an outbreak and you use no protection of any kind and your mouth touches the genital area – it can turn into an STD herpes. (the article - http://www.newsweek.com/2008/05/12/is-a-cold-sore-an-std.html)
If I am missing other safe sex methods, my apologies. Most of us should have learned this during Highschool/Middle School.
EDUCATION SOURCES:
http://www.prochoice.org/about_abortion/facts/safety_of_abortion.html
http://www.fwhc.org/abortion/flyer.htm
http://www.womenhealthzone.com/womens-reproductive-health/does-abortion-affect-your-health-know-about-abortion-risks/
http://smawc.iarbiz.com/q9QOtpROWB4=
PART THREE
RELGION VIEWS:
I will put on the quotes from the Bible – Copied and Pasted from http://www.catholicbible101.com/abortion.htm so i am not looking in the Bible looking for the quotes. (I will read the entire Bible I am already half way through March’s reading – and I am waiting for Bible Study to start up so I can join I already gotten the book for it!) I will write some more after the quotes
Exodus 20:13, “Thou shalt not kill”.
Psalm 139:13:
"For thou didst form my inward parts, thou didst knit me together in my mother's womb."
Jeremiah 1:5, God says:
"Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you; I appointed you a prophet to the nations."
Isaiah 44:24: Thus says the LORD, your Redeemer, who formed you from the womb: "I am the LORD, who made all things, who stretched out the heavens alone, who spread out the earth -- Who was with me?
Luke 1:43-44, Elizabeth, the cousin of Mary says:
“And why is this granted me, that the mother of my Lord should come to me? For behold, when the voice of your greeting came to my ears, the babe in my womb leaped for joy."
Luke 23: 29 “For behold, the days are coming when they will say, `Blessed are the barren, and the wombs that never bore, and the breasts that never gave suck!”
Deuteronomy 30:19: "I call heaven and earth to witness against you this day, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and curse; therefore choose life, that you and your descendants may live".
CONCLUSION:
Those are the quotes from the Bible relates to the Abortion. Now, I am pretty disappointed in the whole percentage on the Catholic having an abortion. My husband and I was discussing it last night and I told him about it, and he said “They don’t believe in a baby unwed” and I was like “Why would it matter?” Sadly a lot of things are changing in the Catholic world. I don’t mind people having premarital sex, that’s the personal choice, I cant say I am innocent. But I also made sure I made good judgments in them, I didn’t hop in bed with just anyone. Premartial sex can be dangerous if one doesn’t know the responsiblies/consquences in them. which is why I posted up the safe sex part, so some will get ideas. I will admit that I am on birth control, I know that is against the Bible, and it helps me regulate my period (which that is an excuse that can be accepted.) There are so many people today are very young having sex.
Some people will blame the parents, school, friends, pressure, boys… WHATEVER, but mistakes are made, and it will be easily blamed. No one has anything to blame but themselves. Except the kids who are having sex before entering highschool, mainly 12 year olds or younger. (I would blame the parents) I don’t know if the schools are providing enough education for the kids, or teaching the safe sex methods, it wasn’t required when I was going to highschool. So, that is still a big debate with people now days. Maybe if we are lucky the numbers will start going low once again in the future. I feel bad for the teenage girls because the guys don’t really stick around they want to go to college and get their lives started and leave the girl behind. It takes two. (not saying ALL but a lot from what I have seen/heard/read) Now, I still do not feel it is acceptable for a girl who is “too young” to be a mother to abort. Adoption is an option, or a different family member can raise the child as its own.
“If you are ready to have sex, you are ready to be a parent” people need to accept that, because if you are not prepared to expect the possibilities, you shouldn’t be having sex… that’s always the way I though of it.
God Bless
Amber
