Adoption - i want to adopt a deaf child.

Happy Sunday everyone!!!

I gotten up earlier than I wanted to, so I am pretty much almost ready to go to Church, but I have a few minutes to spare! :-) to type out an entry….

Yesterday me and a friend met up for coffee, and we started to talk about adoption… which I really want to adopt a deaf girl – yep…. Because I know our child will NOT be deaf, and I want a child that is deaf. I know SOME of you already think it is kinda mean hoping (unless those have changed their minds when I talked about them years ago cuz now I am thinking about it more than ever) that the child I give birth to is deaf.

I became deaf from a allergic reaction to a shot, so therefore, our child will be hearing. I want to give birth to one kid – all NATURAL. I already have a list of who can come to the labor room (I am sorry, I don’t want people coming and visiting and so on, I will be in a a lot of pain, because I will not take any drugs, I will have a contract with the doctor to sign so he will not give me any kind of drugs unless it’s a medical reason of a C section I am hoping it isn’t…I will pray for a natural birth and I want it to be this way) my mom, my husband, my interp (Yep I already gotten my interp picked out… *pokes steph*) and the nurses and doctor… waiting room – immediate family, and the God parents of the baby (I already gotten em picked out, but I will have to discuss it with Chris later on). Breast feeding will be a private moment between me and the baby, if the nurse has to be there to instruct me, fine, and my husband can come in…. but I will not be showing anyone, pictures nothing related to breast feeding (I personally feel this is a private moment… but I know there is a lot of people who are open to it…) when in public I will have a wrap so no one can see… and I will try to avoid the public’s eye so therefore I will go to the family room if I am out.

So once the baby becomes around 3 or so, I think that would be a ideal time to adopt a older sibling for the child. A deaf girl from the states… I am thinking between 5 to 7, I will be 100 percent honest I don’t want to keep a secret from her that she is adopted… she should have every right, and so in case of something, for medical reason, she isn’t suspecting anything. Open adoption? No, I don’t think so. I prefer an adoption that the mother has nothing to do with the child. Because I do not want the child to have mix feelings, when the child is 18 years old, hoping the mother signed “No may not contact me” I am the MOTHER. I am sure I will be doing my research soon. It is one of my biggest dream to have a deaf child.

Thinking of this makes me so happy, because I really want it to come true. We planned on adopting a child, but I know I want my own flesh and blood, and make my parents happy to be a grand parent. But I know we all will love the deaf child as it was our own. I realize it will be a challenge to raise a deaf child, but I will work hard, make sure the child has good education, good reading level, good English skills.

One of the good parts of this – this child will have my environment, knowing to communicate with ASL :-) (for those who doesn’t know, ASL is a much easier communication FOR me because English is my second language. And it is still difficult for me to say things so I keep them “small” so I don’t use the big words and make a fool out of myself that I will get embarrassed. (it is not as bad as now as it used to be when I would be in class… and I would have the class laughing, and the teacher asking for repeats because she doesn’t understand what I am saying, highschool… awful times… or having a college class teacher asking me if I am from another country because of my accent…. That one was like a big ouchers…)  It can get embarrassing when I cant say it, and they keep correcting me… but I also know they are trying to help, and I appreciate it I do want to learn to say things right, however, if it’s the one thing I cant seem to say, then it get into a problem, it took me a LONG time to pronounce my niece/nephew’s name I believe they have Japanese names, it took me MONTHS to say them, I even practiced at home with Chris after meeting them that was my last struggle lol. I am not sure I am saying them right or clearly but I know I say em better than before. I know I had a hard time (I STILL do) saying sushi – my favorite food, and now I think I am allergic… (I get a allergic reaction to shellfish, and lately I’ve shown a bad reaction to sea food too… >.< dang it my FAVORITE FOOD!!!!!) I still have Chinese as my favorite… lol.

Anyways, back to the point… it will encourage the younger sibling to sign… which that would be great… I will want to teach the baby signs so they are learning to sign also as they speak too. I believe this baby should have both languages… our dog is a deaf friendly dog… so all of her commands are verbal and ASL, I use ASL with her. The kids seem to get a kick out of “Speak” lol. I think that’s the one command that she doesn’t do verbal because it is over done by ASL (oops)

I gotta get back to getting ready – I get to wear the bracelet I made! <3 which I am gonna start making them for Christmas gifts and birthday gifts… I hope people would like the gifts I would share for them. (I am aware the boys wont have any unless its one of those cool key chains… that are manly enough) I am so excited I showed my mom she said that might be my gift, my talent… that I finally discovered… I am a very creative person… my mom always have told me that… I went to the store I asked for a brutally honest opinion about the bracelet, she said it looked good, and how she liked so and so… I asked how long does it look like I have been doing this? She said a while, but she was kinda surprised that it was my first attempt (well second when I made the first one too big) I need to start looking for cheaper beads because they are pricey and I want to make so many things, not just for me, for my friends, family, co workers… (Yes I am that generous.)

I spoiled myself last night… I went to body works… *gasp* I bought 2 deep lotion, 1 lotion, 1 body wash, 1 spray, and I bought another lotion for my mom…. I had a hard time deciding WHAT lotion to wear today! *giggles*

God Bless

Amber