Cheaters....

Hey,

I thought I would write about adulterous today. Just something I wanted to write about for a while.

Let Marriage be held in honor among all and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God  will judge the immoral and adulterous. Hebrews 13:4

For starters – if I was a non catholic, I would still ask “WHY would you get married and cheat?” it makes no sense… I know I am not supposed to judge, but I cant help but getting upset hearing some of these people out there who cheats on their spouse for pleasure…. Its obvious they don’t love the spouse enough. It is different if a couple agrees to open relationship and they have their rules (that’s their business – I don’t have to agree or disagree), but if someone betrays one or another that’s wrong.

The thought of me even thinking about sleeping with another man makes me sick. This is a heated subject for me knowing that I have gone through my life with some cheating scumbags. I am grateful that my husband is trustworthy and loyal. Sadly, because of all of that, I cannot trust the women that may be a potential threat. There is a tv show that I do not watch, and I do it for a reason “Cheaters”. It is so sickening to watch those people who watch their spouses/lovers cheat on one or another, then confront them and hear their lame excuse. There is an absolute no excuse for cheating. NONE… “He/she always work late…. Never home…. I need attention…. I was mad….” Control your lust urges...

Most importantly it is one of the ten commandments. The devil wants to test us, wanting to make us lure to the path of wrongness. This is one of them. I have some serious praying for some people, I had to share this because I am just hearing, seeing horrible things going on. (do not assume who – this is not directly to anyone – I am writing this because it needs to be said) my heart aches for those who gets hurts, and I lose respect for one who cheats.

My husband will have NO second chances if he cheats once, even by a kiss… it is not acceptable for me. (or Him) Trust is one of the most important thing in a relationship, how can you have a relationship if there isn’t any trust? I do realize people make mistakes, but this is a mistake I wont even over come if it happens. The truth is:

If one cheats, that person must not love their spouse/significant other enough to stay faithful.

The biggest thing – if you catch someone cheating, best to do is STAY OUT OF IT…. that is the way I taught, just think:

If you see someone, you tell your friend, they get mad at each other then if they make up… who do you think will be mad at you? Them.

Cheating is one of the most dangerous thing to be around, you just never know what to expect, how you find out, who you heard it from, what do you do about it. it will lead to broken hearts. That is why its dangerous at times, some never heal from it.

Okay it isn’t the most dangerous thing, but it can be very personal, emotional, and a big affect in one’s life.

And for the single people who sleeps with a married person – I don’t think they realize they are stealing one’s spouse, and hurting the family, and breaking up a family. Most importantly a family with kids. It is one of the hardest thing for a child to go through, a messy divorce, seeing their parent screwing around with someone who isn’t their parent.

Okay this is becoming a ramble…

Bottom line is – don’t marry a person when you are going to be unfaithful, if you didn’t know/plan it, at least be honest and accept the worst. I don’t feel sorry for you if you get kicked to the curb, because you pretty much deserve it.

My heart goes to the person(s) that gotten their hearts broken by a cheater, I had a motive to write this because I just see so many hurt people wandering around here crying telling one or another how one cheated, media (like the show Cheaters they get a kick and money out of seeing one gets hurt), everywhere... it doesnt stop.. and it needs to. 

Cherish your spouse, cherish your marriage, cherish your life, God have given you a life for you to enjoy, he has given you a lot of gifts, and how do you repay him? By hurting your spouse, doing the wrong and it hurts Him. Bad part, you followed the devil’s way he wanted the you to go his way if you cheated. It is not too late to change, it is never too late to change yourself for better.

God Bless

Amber